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Data study, May 2026

America's Kinkiest States

We ranked every U.S. state by a weighted mix of sex frequency, adult store density, Not Safe for Work (NSFW) content searches and kink-related search demand to see where curiosity is most pronounced.

A playful, data-led report from Say It With A Condom, built to spark safer conversations.

New Mexico takes the top spot.

The top three states each scored above 83, but they got there in different ways. New Mexico led online NSFW searches, Oregon had the highest adult store density, and Arkansas balanced high search activity with high reported sex frequency.

Search trends

BDSM dominates national search interest.

The study also looked at a curated list of 20 kink-related categories. BDSM was the most searched category nationally and ranked first in 47 states.

Fun fact: Only three states broke the BDSM most searched kink.

Delaware and New Jersey searched most for swinging, while New York searched most for face sitting.

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Methodology

Each metric was standardized using a percentile rank method, then weighted to create the final kink score: Adult Store Density Per 1M Adults, 35%; Avg Sex Frequency Per Week, 25%; NSFW Content Searches Per 1k People, 20%; and Kink Searches Per 10k People, 20%. Higher values produced a higher overall score.

Sources: Adult store density is based on OpenStreetMap locations tagged as shop=erotic, sex frequency uses NapLab survey data, and search demand uses Google Keyword Planner. Notes: OSM coverage is community-contributed and may undercount stores in rural areas. Missing geographic markers were corrected via Nominatim reverse geocoding. The kink search list is curated, not a universal representation of all sexual preferences. Data reflects the available dataset as of May 2026 and is for informational use.